I can remember now, sitting down at a small desk in a small room with this black box and a
set of earphones and (usually) a woman who would say, “It’s easy honey, just listen for the beeps
and when you hear them, raise your hand on that side.”
All would start out well. Right side—beep. Left side—beep. Right side, right side, left side—
beep. But then I would notice that she wrote something down. Silence. Left side—beep. Silence.
Write on the paper. Silence. Write on paper. Right side—beep.
One year, this time in the school auditorium for such a test, the facilitator fussed at me, “You
heard it the first time, this is the same thing. Stop playing games, young lady.”
I assure you, I did not play games. I certainly did not like to fail anything. That only got me in
trouble, and at that time I had no desire to be in trouble.
It turned out, after some investigation, that my hearing was mildly worse than it should be.
Emphasis on the mildly, but enough that I’ve naturally adapted to pay closer attention in
conversation.
Of course, hearing is different than listening, even when one person has to work a bit harder
at the hearing part. Listening requires attentiveness, persistence, it requires time, it even requires
some capacity for empathy and vulnerability.
These are all very difficult when it feels like there is no attention to spare, no extra time to
give, and it is harder and harder to understand where another person is coming from—particularly
when it feels so different than where I am coming from.
It is easy to condemn the time that we live in for this limited capacity we have to really pay
attention to one another, to really want to listen. The energy it takes to have a one-on-one
conversation in person is significantly more than the energy it takes to text periodically or to have an
argument via social media.
Yet, I wonder if one of the reasons we get the story of Lydia is because it has always been a
particular gift of time and effort to truly listen. I suspect that there has always been a ready excuse
for why it is easier to choose not to listen.
The slave-owners’ bottom line was threatened. They didn’t hear a word else-wise.
The magistrates’ authority was on the line. They only heard the crowd chanting.
What Paul and Silas were saying were things not becoming of good, law-abiding, Roman citizens.
Yet, the Spirit moved in the heart of Lydia as she heard the words at the riverside that one
sabbath morning and at some point, she began to really listen.
There’s a lot, Scripture tells us, that the Spirit is able to do by the riverside with folks who
are ready to listen. The disciples were called to follow one morning as they stood there ready to cast
their nets. The Hebrew slaves were set free there one day when the waters parted before them to
make a way out of no way. John preached and baptized there, and people flocked to him all the way
out to the wilderness from Jerusalem. The resurrected Jesus stood there with bread and fish and
invited his disciples to join him one last time before sending them out on the mission that Paul and
Silas and Timothy and now Lydia were taking up as their own.